Self-Care Verses Soul-Care

The term "self-care" has become popular in recent times, but I prefer to think of it as soul care. This concept transcends merely tending to our physical or emotional needs; it encompasses the deeper aspects of who we are—our relationship with God and our God-given purpose.

Self-care is important and has its place in helping us recharge and manage the demands of life. It often focuses on practical, everyday actions, like rest, pampering, or finding moments of relaxation—things that can provide much-needed relief and support. However, soul care goes even deeper. While self-care helps us feel rejuvenated in the moment, soul care nurtures the deeper aspects of our being. It ensures that we are spiritually and emotionally whole, enabling us to not only care for ourselves but also to fulfil our God-given calling and serve others with strength and grace.

Both are valuable, but soul care invites us to go beyond the surface and connect with God for lasting renewal.

Soul care is not a selfish act, nor is it an excuse to avoid responsibilities. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Soul care is a form of godly stewardship, which equips us with the resilience, clarity, and strength to live purposefully and serve both God and others effectively. It’s an intentional process of renewal that allows us to pour love, compassion, and support into the lives of those around us. This isn't indulgence—it’s a compassionate and strategic choice to care for the vessel through which God accomplishes His work.

Think of it like the emergency instructions on a plane: secure your own oxygen mask before helping others. If we are fatigued, disoriented, and spiritually depleted, we won't be able to assist others effectively. Soul care equips us to be more effective stewards of our time, relationships, and resources. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup. As John Ortberg wisely puts it:

"You are not just a self. You are a soul, made by God, made for God, and made to need God."

Caring for your soul means recognising its worth and surrendering to God’s care. Ortberg also reminds us, “We are meant to steward our soul, so it is aligned with God and His purposes.”

What Does Healthy Soul Care Look Like?

Practical Soul Care

Regular Exercise: Physical activity uplifts both body and soul, giving us the strength to serve others fully.

Balanced Nutrition: Good nutrition sustains the energy we need to do God’s work.

Adequate Sleep: Quality rest recharges the body and mind, preparing us to live with purpose.

Time in Nature: Reflecting on God’s creation brings peace and reminds us of His presence.

Hobbies and Interests: Activities that bring joy are not indulgences but restoration for the soul.

Relaxation Techniques: Practices like deep breathing help us align our minds with God’s peace.

Digital Detox: Limiting screen time helps us stay grounded in real relationships and opens space to hear God’s voice.

We are reminded in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (NIV):"Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honour God with your bodies."

By caring for our physical health, we honour the vessel through which God accomplishes His work.

Mental Soul Care

Journaling: Writing helps us gain clarity and release emotions, making space for God’s guidance.

Reading: Engaging with good books, especially Scripture, brings wisdom and rest.

Creative Expression: Artistic activities allow our God-given creativity to flourish and restore our souls.

Therapy and Counselling: Seeking help when needed reflects wisdom and grace, leading to healing.

Limiting Negative Influences: Reducing exposure to draining influences allows room for God’s inspiration.

In Romans 12:2 (NIV), we are instructed:"Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—His good, pleasing, and perfect will."

Spiritual Soul Care

Prayer: Deepening our connection with God through regular prayer strengthens our spirit and aligns our heart with His will.

Worship: Experiencing God’s presence in worship brings renewal and unity with the faith community.

Reflection: Spending quiet time with God allows us to hear from Him and gain strength for the journey ahead.

Gratitude: Cultivating a thankful heart keeps us grounded in God’s goodness.

Forgiveness: Letting go of emotional burdens through forgiveness creates space for God’s healing work.

In Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV), Jesus extends His invitation:
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

Healthy soul care is a holistic practice that integrates faith, mental health, and physical well-being. It aligns us with God's vision for a balanced, purposeful life—one in which we can serve Him and others from a place of renewal.

By nurturing our spiritual well-being, we remain connected to God and His purpose for our lives.

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this article reflect my personal Christian beliefs and are not intended to be imposed on others. Readers are encouraged to explore their own spiritual and professional beliefs in line with their values.